Ansarali Nadaf
Ansar Ali (Reader(Bibliophile) ,Poet,An Artist,Astro-Physicist,Violinist,Psychologist (Beginner), INTROSPECTION , Knowing Myself )
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Sunday, January 1, 2017
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Friday, October 23, 2015
Letters of Note: Nothing good gets away
Nothing good gets away
John Steinbeck, born in 1902, was one of the most acclaimed authors of his generation, responsible for a body of work that boasts, most notably, The Grapes of Wrath, East of Eden, and Of Mice and Men—all classics which have been read and adored by many millions in all corners of the globe, and which resulted in Steinbeck being awarded the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1962. Four years before that happened, his eldest son, 14-year-old Thomas, wrote home from boarding school and told of Susan, a young girl for whom he believed he had fallen. Steinbeck replied the same day with a wonderful, heartfelt letter of fatherly advice, on the subject of love, that couldn’t have been more fitting.
This letter, along with 124 other fascinating pieces of correspondence, can be found in the bestselling book, Letters of Note. More info here.
(Image: Thom and John Steinbeck with their father in 1954, courtesy of UC Berkeley.)
New York
November 10, 1958
Dear Thom:
We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.
First—if you are in love—that’s a good thing—that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.
Second—There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you—of kindness and consideration and respect—not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.
You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply—of course it isn’t puppy love.
But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it—and that I can tell you.
Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.
The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.
If you love someone—there is no possible harm in saying so—only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.
Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.
It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another—but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.
Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.
We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.
And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens—The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.
Love,
Fa
Sunday, May 10, 2015
Monday, October 27, 2014
Diwali is a festival of lights
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
12 BASIC ASANA'S (POSTURES) AND PRANAYAMA (BREATHING EXERCISES)
12 BASIC ASANA'S (POSTURES) AND PRANAYAMA (BREATHING EXERCISES)
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Some Important things which you need to teach the KIDS
1. To Swim.
2. Getting rid of stage fear.
3. A Sport.
4. Teach more than 4 languages.
5. A musical instrument.
6. Watch sensible movies.
7. Respect women.
8. Respect a person based on their character rather than their age.
9. How to know whether a person is sexually abusing them.
10. How to fight a sexual abuse.
11. Listen to your heart.
12. Travel a lot.
13. Meet people.
14. DO not trust people easily/very fast.
15. Never bow down if you are not wrong.
16. Help the Helpless.
17. Read books.
18. Respect a person's ideas and privacy.
19. No matter what; be honest to the person you love.
Wednesday, September 3, 2014
Here are some things I really, really wish I knew when I was twenty...!!!
Here are some things I really, really wish I knew when I was twenty.
->Love hurts, but not as much as not loving.
->The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.
->You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions.
->The company does not love you. It has no heart. You are replaceable. Keep your parachute handy.
->Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry.
->To marry well, you must choose well.
->Love is a commitment.
->Believe it or not, passions grow out of your values. Make early, wise choices to value what (and who) is good, trustworthy, and praiseworthy.
->Integrity preserved is honor won.
->Rejoice in your health. It fades fast.
->Find a passion. Pick a hobby, own it: photography, juggling—whatever. Get your 10K hours of perfect practice in early and change your life.
->Don’t bother comparing yourself to others—this only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment.
->Most disappointments grow from unmet expectations.
->Set realistic expectations for yourself, based on your strengths, then strive to exceed them.
->Don’t drive others to meet expectations they’ve committed to —lead, inspire, and help them do it.
->Don’t set expectations for others when they haven't or cannot commit to them.
->Don’t complain. Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective.
->Don’t worry about making big bucks out of the gate, worry first about doing whatever you have to do excellently.
->Little stuff matters—even in lowly jobs. The boss notices and even if not, your peers and colleagues do.
->Ultimately, privacy is a myth: God sees everything. The cloud records everything. NSA files everything. So, live transparently and don't waste useless energy hiding failures.
->Don’t look down on others because they don’t have what you didn’t earn —your intellect, your beauty, and your culture of birth are undeserved gifts…be humble.
->Failure is an opportunity: no great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures to learn from.
->Never withhold an apology when it’s merited. Deliver it quickly, sincerely, and personally—before resentment festers.
->You don’t need to nurture old guilt when you're forgiven. But remembering the shame can help you avoid repeats.
->Mere belief in anything signifies little more than assent.It's trust and behavior that reveal where convictions lie.
->The main thing you need to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Trade hurry for calm, confidence, and precision.
->Everybody needs an editor.Everybody.
->Get your work done first so you can play without guilt. Even better, make work play and the fun never ends!
->If you want to develop your passion and gift, stop worrying about the things you do poorly. Go with your strengths!
->Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed. But when a fight picks you, leave everything on the mat and give it your all. Hold nothing back.
->If you're bored, you’re doing it wrong.
->The skills that will help your career most are the abilities to assimilate, communicate, and persuade.Keep learning.
->Nothing in this life—no pain, no agony, no failure—compares to the eternal joy of Heaven. Live in light of eternity.
->Protect your joy. Nothing is easier to lose by over-thinking, over analyzing, and second-guessing. On the other hand, always consider the long-term consequences of your choices: stupid decisions made in the moment can rob you of years of joy and happiness.
->Your purpose in life determines how you frame events. You can maintain your joy in the most dire circumstances if you find meaning for your life. Dig deep.
->It truly matters what you think about. Think well by reading good books, building good, loving relationships, having good conversation, and imitating great people.
I'm still learning — in fact I haven’t fully appreciated most of the list I made, myself. And I’m still adding to it. But I’m getting better.